If anyone in your life is more emotionally important to you than your spouse, the two of you are not "one". Two people can marry, share a domicile and even share a bed, but if someone is emotionally closer to one of them than their spouse, it is intuitively obvious that the two cannot be “one”.

Not only is a gentle and quiet spirit precious in the sight of God, but a gentle and quiet spirit makes a husband love his wife. In the wedding vows, the vow to love, honor and cherish comes before the vow of fidelity. The avoidance of arguing and strife is that which love, honoring and cherishing is all about.

A calm, sweet, grateful, loving person is extremely attractive. But in our society, our marriages often fall apart because that sweet person that we married decides, once the ceremony is over, that they are no longer going to be our lover, but rather our drill sergeant.

God’s teaching in Genesis 2:18 is that women are meant to be men’s helpers. And, intuitively obvious from the verse is that assertion that God’s purpose for creating women is to help men to not be lonely.

God tells us to have only one wife and to have marital relations with only her because of the feelings that He has designed into women and the possessiveness that they feel for those with whom they have intimate contact. And we should follow God’s instruction in this matter, as some things are to be avoided, because, when done, they cannot be fixed.

As grateful as we may be to our fathers for their provision and instruction, we know that we never would have reached the point at which our fathers could help us had it not been for the physical sacrifice of our mothers. Fathers are analogous to the surgeons who perform heart transplants; mothers are analogous to the donors who give the hearts.