The purpose of Biblical love is to facilitate salvation, that men should not perish but have everlasting life. Since none of the attributes of Biblical love are emotions, it is possible to show love to someone for whom you feel no emotion whatsoever, or even someone for whom you feel negative emotion. Love requires us to perform loving actions because of God’s command to do so.

If we fail to recognize that the only reason that we hold a place in God’s Kingdom is because our sins have been forgiven, we will arrogantly think that we are better than we are and feel conceitedly justified in not forgiving others and thus displaying the love that Jesus commands.

Submission and love is the crux of Christianity, and only as we show that love to one another in our most intimate relationships can others see our Christian testimony. If we show our Christian “love” only to those with whom our relationship is peripheral, we have not really passed the test, because the real test is our ability to sacrifice ourselves for one another, as Jesus sacrificed Himself for us.

The Lord has given women a way to control men; it’s just not by arguing. Husbands have authority, while wives have influence. Men are, by design, emotionally dependent on their wives, and if wives use the tool that they are given to positively control their husband’s emotions rather than trying to use the negative tool of argument, wives will, according to the Scripture, be successful in getting that which they desire from even those men that do not obey the Word of God.

The devil is hostile to husband and wife becoming one. Since marriage is the basic building block of God’s program, when we allow Satan to attack our marriages, we are letting him attack God’s program at its’ very root.

From a spiritual perspective, one of the most important choices that anyone can make, after accepting Jesus Christ Savior, is that of a Christian spouse. Marriage is the most important and most intimate relationship that we can have, because it is the relationship, above all others, in which we can practice Jesus’ command to love.

A man and his wife are co-heirs of grace, because once we receive the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, we cannot hold it in a vacuum. And marriage is the laboratory in which the Lord Jesus Christ commands us to display this love.

We can only pass God’s test by implementing wisdom in our lives, disciplining our desires to listen to the rebukes of life, fear God, and keep His commandments. We have to modify our propensity to act on our desires and rather comply with God’s commands. When we do so, we become wise.